Thirteen Days in Israel — Part IX - Final Installment in this Series

March 17-19 — A three-day workshop with a group of Bedouin women in Ashkelon, Israel.

"What are you so afraid of? I'm facing my fears. If today is your day to die, then so be it." What can you say to that? I started laughing.

Perhaps it's fitting that during the last two days of my trip I experienced firsthand what it feels like to be under mortar attack, because now I have a new understanding of the fear and danger these women live with on a daily basis.

Here's what happened. Rina, a Bedouin woman who had done work with me at Omega, invited me and three women from the Beyond Words organization—Silvi, an Arab Christian, and two Jewish women, Nitsan and Liri—to run a three-day workshop at a kibbutz two miles from the Gaza strip, with all Bedouin women.

Many of the twenty Bedouin women were wearing headscarves. In Bedouin culture the women's husbands are permitted to take multiple wives, and the women are told whom they can marry—and sometimes are forced to marry very young. Their lives are controlled. They don't have money. The tribes stay separate. Women are really not free in their Bedouin culture, and they're oppressed in Israeli society as well. They are getting it from all directions—from their husbands and families, from their tribal culture, and from the government of Israel.

When we got there the first night I was really tired. Silvi hadn't arrived yet, so I asked Liri and Nitsan to take the lead and run the first workshop. They had been Beyond Words leaders for many years, and I quietly observed.

The next day Silvi arrived, along with a Bedouin woman named Amal, who had been nominated for a Nobel Peace prize for her work in the Bedouin community. As I started working with the whole group, I was thrilled to see that the Bedouin women were really ready to get into it. For these women, it was a special treat that someone had come in from the outside to give them something. It was clear that they were going to take advantage of every single second.

They started telling stories that were so unbelievable. One woman said they had tried to marry her off but she'd stood up to them and said no. She wanted to go to school. For punishment, her family had taken her books and burned them. She was ostracized by her tribe. Four years later she met a man whom she felt was her soulmate. His wife had died and he had scars because he had been a skin donor to try in vain to save his wife's life, who was injured in a car wreck but ended up dying. She felt this man's suffering and married him. But her family was still against her and banished her, including her own twin brother. Because she had done what she wanted to do, she had born the punishment for it her whole life. She just couldn't bring herself to submit. After she married this man, he decided to take a second wife. Feeling deeply betrayed, she took her child with her back to her family, but they shut their doors on her and the child. Somehow, she supported herself and her child, and built her own house. Her husband, unhappy with his second marriage, ended up coming back to her. He begged her to take him back. She agreed, but on one condition: that they would live in her house.

Another woman said, "My husband used to beat me, but finally I turned him in and he went to prison. But now he's out of prison and he's beating my children." We got her hitting and saying "NO!" She started telling her husband he can never hit her children again. Her emotions radiated through the room and triggered a lot of pent-up feelings. Another woman started screaming, "Mother, where are you? Why aren't you protecting me?" Many of the women screamed and cried for their mothers. In Bedouin society, oppression is handed down from mothers and perpetuated by them.

The women went home, and the next day gunmen from Gaza started bombing the kibbutz where we were. At first, the shelling sounded far away. Then we heard this bomb explode really close by. We ran inside and tried to get under the bed. Then we saw people running outside, so we ran outside and followed them into a small concrete room that was the bomb shelter. Liri told me that even if a bomb hit on top of us we'd be fine. She was in post-traumatic shock. And I could see that Silvi was really angry. It was chaotic and confusing. Then the bombing stopped.

When we went outside to investigate, the bombing started again, so we ran back into the shelter. Ring ring. It was the Bedouin women calling us on phone. "We want to finish the workshop. We're coming to get you." The woman, who the day before had had the courage to stand up to her husband, arrived in a taxi with two other giant, powerful women, who put their arms around us. She (who remains nameless to protect her identity) looked me in the eyes and said, "What are you so afraid of? I'm facing my fears. If today is your day to die, then so be it. Come on!" What can you say to that? I started laughing. They reminded me of powerful angels coming to take us away.

We went in separate cars to a house that was away from the bombing to finish the workshop. I was in a car with Liri and Silvi, and Silvi was in a rage. "The government leaders use us," she cried. "The Jewish and Arab leaders use the conflict to support their causes, and we've got to take this away from them." She said they use us by getting us scared and angry, which perpetuates their conflict. "We can take it away from them. We can use it differently. The mortars are coming from Gaza, but Israel has so much more firepower to bomb the shit out of the Gaza leaders." She said they would use every opportunity to continue the conflict. "We women have to say no. We have to go to the streets and say no!"

In the backseat on the verge of tears, I was feeling their rage and their fear. I was thinking, how terrible that people around the world are living in these situations and we're in our comfortable privileged lives and not giving it a second thought. That car ride was more intense than the bomb. I felt their rage so fully.

In the end, they were all really happy that I had had this experience. Everyone said, "You need to know what life is like here and need to know what we're living with and what we're dealing with."

When we got all the women together for the final workshop, one of the Bedouin women who had come to get us said when she had hugged Liri in the bomb shelter, she had felt split. I love this woman, she said, but feel for the people of Gaza. She talked about how split her heart feels and how much she wants peace, but how her heart in that moment was with the people of Gaza and the Arabs. Liri was the only Jewish woman in that room. The women were saying all sorts of different things. All Jews aren't like Liri; they're not going to support us. Others were saying, yes, we can do this. Everything on that morning was out in the open.

I said I would never forget those brave Bedouin women coming to get me for the rest of my life.

Nor will I forget these 13 days in Israel, and all the courageous and open-hearted women who taught me and each other so much, women who are mending the rifts between religious and ethnic cultures one heart and soul at a time.

Thirteen Days in Israel - Part VIII

March 16 -- A day with my Esalen group from last year, at Talitha Kumi, in the Occupied Territories of Palestine.

I noticed that Fatina and her son were really frightened. It slowly dawned on me that they were driving on a road that was traveled by Jews only.

I was so looking forward to my time in occupied Palestine, because it meant I would be reunited with the group of Jewish and Arab women I had worked with here in the US at a weeklong workshop at Esalen, in Big Sur, CA.

To get to Talitha Kumi, one has to go through a checkpoint. Because the Arabs who live in Palestine are not allowed to go into Jerusalem, it's only Jews who pass back and forth through this particular checkpoint. It was not difficult for me to pass through.

The night before the workshop, Nitsan and I spent time at the home of Rasha's mother. Rasha had been at Esalen with the Beyond Words group. An Arab from the occupied territory, she had left for the states two years ago without telling her family she wasn't coming back. When her mother found out I was coming, she wanted to meet me and treat me to a feast, because she'd learned that I had been helping her daughter. Rasha had come to the States with no money and no connections, but Americans have been so inspired by her story that she's gotten support from various people. Now she's at Brandeis on a student visa, working toward her PhD.

Rasha's mother, a religious Muslim, had spent two days preparing a feast for our group, and I had been told, "Don't eat before you go there. You won't believe what they're going to do for you." When the mother saw me, we both simultaneously burst into tears. She had fixed this unbelievable meal with Rasha's sister and two best friends, and all the little kids sitting around the table for this amazing feast—soup and rice and beans and three different meat courses, olives and pickles and vegetables—and I ate and ate and ate. I was just about to clear away when the mother put a whole chicken on my plate! She cried half the time I was there. Nitsan, from Beyond Words, and Rasha's friends who could speak English were translating. They all wanted me to know what life was like for them. It was an amazing experience—and the feast lasted for two hours.

The workshop the next day was in a room of an Arab school. All the women who came_­ had been at Esalen with me—half of them Jewish, and the other half Arabs—three of whom lived in Palestine, and the rest Arab women who lived in Israel. The women of Gaza have to be really careful about not letting people know they are doing this peace work with me and the Beyond Words organization. Only their families know; they are doing this undercover.

The work got very deep, very fast. The women really dug into the politics of the Israeli-Arab conflict, and their feelings of anger and grief were palpable in the room. At Esalen, the Radical Aliveness work was challenging for them, but here, with me, in their own backyard, everyone just went for it. No one was holding back.

They had been working together on and off since I last saw them about a year before. The women of the group were really present and bringing up their feelings. One Arab woman was telling a story about how she works for the housing authority that gives building permits. She had met an Arab man who was dying of cancer and who wanted to build a home for his family. She issued the permit and told him to go ahead and build it, then the Israelis bulldozed his house. She was sobbing, saying how betrayed she felt, and how terrible she felt about her participation in the system. An Arab woman stood up and was angry too. Then a Jewish woman got up and said, "I am an angry Jew—I'm angry at what's going on too." She went wild, and soon everyone was howling in pain. The women really worked directly on the conflict and it was inspiring to see how much safety and trust they were able to create in that room, and how much work they had done together since Esalen a year earlier, work that had freed them up to be more real and more honest. It was a wonderful, deep group and experience.

In the end, we talked about how they had gotten empowered by the work, and how different they felt now compared with when they were at Esalen. They also remarked on how healing it was for them to have an outsider—not Jewish, not part of the conflict—to facilitate. They said it made them much freer to express their feelings. Actually, everyone said this to me everywhere I went. My "outsider" status brought safety and neutrality to the groups, and allowed them to express themselves more powerfully.

At the end of that workshop one of the Beyond Words women, Fatina, a Muslim Arab, wanted to take me to Bethlehem. I agreed. She and her son took me around Bethlehem and showed me the church where people had hidden out without food or medicine to avoid being killed by Israeli forces. The town was thousands of years old. In the center of the town were a lot of youth staging a peaceful demonstration to try and bring the two parties together, Fatah and Hamas. At the time, the town was split between these two parties. They also took me to the center Fatina is starting with other women in the occupied territories—a place to empower women to make money. They served me sweets and coffee and I met all the budding entrepreneurial women.

As they drove me back on the road toward the checkpoint to take me back into Israel, I noticed that Fatina and her son were really frightened. It slowly dawned on me that they were driving on a road that was traveled by Jews only, because Arabs were not allowed to cross at the checkpoint it led to. They were terrified to be caught on that "forbidden" road, and it really brought home to me the kind of fear they live with. Basically, it's a road only for Jews. We were driving really slowly because they were really nervous just to be on that road where Arabs are not supposed to be. Nitsan and Assaf, both Jewish, had already driven through the checkpoint from the Israeli side and were waiting for us, parked just past the checkpoint. This aroused the suspicions of the soldiers. When Nitsan saw Fatina and her son drive up with me, she saw the look on their faces and burst into tears. "I'm so sorry," she said. She kept saying over and over how unfair it was for Fatina and her son, and how badly she felt for them. Nitsan later told me she saw a mother and child who cried and cried because they couldn't go through the checkpoint.

The soldiers did let us drive through, after really checking us out. My own fear, though, made me realize what these Arab women live with daily.

Radical Aliveness meets Women's Initiative Non-Profit Organization

photos by: Sherri Brown








Five Students from the 3rd Year Class of our Radical Aliveness Core Energetics Professional Certification Program traveled up north to lead a 3-Day workshop for twenty staff members of the Women's Initiative non-profit organization. This is what we mean by taking Radical Aliveness out into the world!

Thirteen Days in Israel – Part VII

March 15 -- A day with peace facilitators and social workers at Givat Haviva.

I have seen with my own eyes hundreds of ordinary people performing extraordinarily skillful acts of emotional healing.

I had the privilege of traveling to the community of Givat Haviva, where the Beyond Words organization arranged for me to work with some women at the Jewish Arab Center for Peace. It’s an inspiring place, having been established way back in the early 1960s with the mission of bringing Jews and Arabs in Israel closer together, and to help them achieve a mutual understanding of their cultures and concerns. What better place to do my Radical Aliveness work?

What was wonderful is that these dozen social workers were all studying post-graduate facilitation skills in a year-long course. So in a sense, we all went into the workshop with the same vocabulary and intentions. The leader of the school was quite nervous about bringing me in. But people who had worked with me in the past had recommended me highly.

First, I got the women into small groups and we did an ice-breaker exercise in which women in each small group shared with each other the messages they had received from their families, messages they had received from their culture, and talked about how these messages affected their bodies. This is generally a good one to get workshop participants talking, emoting, feeling, listening, and observing. It always opens up a goldmine of issues and gets energy in the room and in their bodies flowing freely. It’s like bringing an enormous pile of art supplies into the middle of the room -- it gives us lots to work with.

This is a good opportunity for me to offer a quick aside -- some background on what's really behind my approach. Yes, getting people into small groups is an ice-breaker. But here's why: All human beings have innate healing, intuitive, and empathic qualities, yet they don't necessarily know how to access these. For example, if I were to say to a perfect stranger, "Here, spend some time with this partner and really connect. Find out who she is and what makes her tick. Really relate to her," the stranger would look at me blankly and say, "I can't. I don't know what you want me to do." And yet, if you ask the same person a specific set of questions, and they know that everyone in the room will be disclosing at the same level of vulnerability and intensity, they will talk. They will listen. They will begin to feel camaraderie, or perhaps they will feel fear or grief or anger or shame or some other strong emotion.

The point is, this seemingly simple exercise gets ordinary, untrained people using quite advanced healing skills. Without consciously realizing it, real support and openness unfurls inside these small pods. They experience the sense of helping -- and asking for help. Simple? Yes. But flexing such healing muscles -- in a room where other small groups are doing exactly the same thing -- creates an almost magical atmosphere filled with emotional, electric charge that radiates out into a room vibrating with connection, support, and ability.

I love this basic exercise because it's a very real, hands-on way to show participants that they have masterful skills that come quite naturally. I love to support individuals to access their healing abilities. We have it in us ­– I have seen with my own eyes hundreds of ordinary people performing extraordinarily skillful acts of emotional healing.

Using their skills of listening, empathizing, supporting, and observing, every woman in that room readily saw that she already possessed leadership and healing abilities. So I got everyone started at a higher plane of confidence and connection than they entered with.

After the exercise, we started talking about what it brought up for people. It was beautiful. The women were willing to go to such deep and vulnerable places. For example, one of the Arab women got to work on the death of her brother, which she hadn’t opened up about publicly until then, and felt very relieved to do so. Another young woman had been sexually abused, and she had never told anybody. Everyone in the group was deeply affected by these and other stories. By the end, we were all were crying, feeling deeply, and really supporting each other.

What happens when you support this kind of process is that the energy moves around the room. One person opens up, and then another and another. It's like a charge that gets passed from person to person. When we open ourselves to our deepest feelings -- and those of others -- it creates spontaneous healing. The simple small-group exercise is invaluable in places where people desperately need healing, but don't know how to say it, express their need, or open up.

Afterwards, when they shared, the women were saying what a special day this was for them. Their director admitted she had been hesitant and protective for the students to have me there. She told me, “It was really an incredible experience to see how deep the whole group went.” She added that the work I did with her students was so profound and beautiful she was very happy she had taken the leap.

It was a lovely, lovely experience for me too.

Thirteen Days in Israel – Part VI

March 14 – A small Arab village

It's extremely difficult to get to your true and deep feelings if you don't feel safe.

In writing about the work I did in Israel, I've tried to be very sensitive to those people who sometimes had to overcome great obstacles and even put themselves in danger to meet with me and do our group process. In the case of the day I'm about to describe, I cannot name the small town I went to, nor name the Arab women from Beyond Words who invited me. It is such a small town that everyone who lives there is related in some way or another, either by blood or by marriage. With the villagers, our work would raise suspicions.

Following my three-day break, I went next to this small Arab village, where I met with a group that was mostly Muslim Arab women, with one or two Jewish women. These were all kindergarten teachers who had been working with two Beyond Words leaders for about six months.

The challenge with this particular group was that they all worked together at the grade school, and as mentioned, were closely related, which is not conducive to creating a safe setting for revealing and unleashing deep feelings. Imagine wanting and needing very badly to talk about a traumatic experience, or reveal a secret fear, or just unleash a raw emotion in such a setting. All of these women feared judgment, and they did not feel certain that everything that happened in the room would stay there. And of course, some of their secrets or stories would likely betray the confidence of another woman in the room.

I always learn from these kinds of challenges, but that doesn't make them easier! It was clear from the beginning that most of the women in the group felt unsure and unsafe. I finally ended up getting them in the flow and feeling their emotions by helping them move their energy in a way that felt less threatening and less personally charged to them. "Babies are completely free," I told them. "Be babies, and be wild." They were able to do that. With every group you have to find a way "in," and this exercise worked, more or less.

Although letting go like this was healing for many of them, the modest progress I was able to make with this particular group reminded me of the challenge we all face: It's extremely difficult to get to your true and deep feelings if you don't feel safe. In a way, the work the Beyond Words women and I are doing with all of these courageous people is helping them learn how to create safe spaces where they can release anger, fear, and other emotions. It's all about trusting your fellow man and being in community with others who are doing so too. That's how individual healing begins and spreads out into the community, one group at a time.

Thirteen Days in Israel – Part V

March 11-13 – Our Three-Day Break in Nazareth

Many Westerners have such a skewed vision of Arabs. They are unbelievably helpful, generous, and very proud of their legendary hospitality.

After five days of intense work, we were happy to have a three-day break in the Arab town of Nazareth, graciously organized by our hosts, Silvi (Arab) and Varda (Jewish), two leaders from Beyond Words.

Some highlights: They took us for an incredible meal at an Arab restaurant. If you haven't eaten authentic Arab food, you are in for a treat. This was an upscale restaurant -- the kind of place you might find in New York or LA -- that served local fresh foods. I had a beautiful salad and a mouthwatering lamb dish, both of which were delicious.

We also went sightseeing and saw the Church of the Annunciation, a church built over the cave where Mary, while collecting water, received a message from God that she was going to be a mother. They had built a shrine around the cave entrance, which you could still walk past. The church was a grand structure with an enormous dome circled by giant stained-glass panels contributed by many different countries. All of the panels depicted the theme of the angel Gabriel coming down from heaven to tell the Virgin Mary that she'd been chosen to bear the son of God. I was dazzled by how different all the windows were, and how they highlighted the diversity of human beings and the human spirit in an exquisite way. The church was so different from any I have ever seen, and its breathtaking beauty made me cry.

Another treat during our three-day rest was our visit to a spice vendor. Like everything in Nazareth, it was in an ancient building. You went downstairs into this basement through an open door. When you step into the first of three rooms, your senses came alive. Every inch of the place was filled with spices, teas, dried fruits, nuts, and seeds. The vendor was a kind and open-hearted man who, like every Arab I met, was so generous and so eager to show us his store, and to offer us tastes and samples of everything. Many Westerners have such a skewed vision of Arabs. They are unbelievably helpful, generous, and very proud of their legendary hospitality. When you are their guest, they feed you and tend to your every need and make you feel honored and well cared for. Fiercely proud of their cultural tradition of hospitality, they want everyone to know that the terrorist-stereotype is not who they are.

We talked with him for quite some time, and he was happy to listen and to answer our questions. He told us about the spices and how he doesn't sell anything from other places, that everything in his shop was locally grown and made. I pointed to a small row of Coca-cola bottles on the shelf. "Except those," I said, jokingly. Oh no, he replied, those too. He told us that the women of Nazareth make a sweet, dark, brown syrup that is used to treat just about anything that ails you. On closer examination, I saw that these bottles weren't filled with soda pop. Of course, he gave me a bottle to try. "It cures everything," he told me.

Anna and I relished every moment of our break in Nazareth. This was the end of Anna's part of the trip. After our stay in Silvi's home, we said goodbye to Anna. I am always amazed at the healing power of rest and rejuvenation. I felt a great sense of renewal and clarity at the end of those three days, and was ready to forge on to the next group that awaited us.

Thirteen Days in Israel – Part IV

March 10-11 -- 2-Day Workshop in Nes Ammim

"You can't work on peace alone. You need your enemy in order to create peace."

Anna and I spent March 10 and 11 at Nes Ammim, a Christian kibbutz. We worked with a big group of Jewish, Arab Palestinian, Bedouin, and Druse women from all over the country who had done a lot of profound emotional work previously with the Beyond Words organization. Most of these women had worked with me in the past, so we were able to get to a deeper level right away. At this retreat were also Silvi, Nitsan, and Nurit, three leaders from Beyond Words.

Silvi became the catalyst for everyone's emotions on day one. Silvi, whose brother and brother-in-law had recently been killed in a factory accident, began expressing her grief and outrage. The factory where they both worked had blown up due to dangerous conditions that had not been addressed by the employer. She was in tons of grief, so I brought her out in the middle of the room, where she began screaming and kicking. The whole room exploded -- everybody was sobbing. It felt like an ancient wailing circle.

Afterwards, Nitsan came into an emotional place where she was kicking and screaming and saying that it was too much pain to bear -- all this pain happening all at once. I explained to her and to the group why it's not necessary to have a controlled process where everything is explained and understood. When we let our feelings take over, it gives everyone an opportunity to experience their deepest feelings. When this happens, it's as if there's pain that simply needs to emerge and come through the group. By allowing ourselves to be used that way, something gets processed in the room. It goes beyond one person telling a story and having it be tied up into a neat package.

Nurit said the experience in a moment like that is one of profound unity. Separateness melts away and we become one whole room, together. The entire group was mourning with Silvi, allowing the pain of the world to flow through them. In that moment, who's Arab and who's a Jew, who's a friend and who's not -- all separations melted away.

The next day at Nes Ammim, there was a Bedouin woman who had been frightened by the work of the previous day. We got her talking, and she ended up telling us the story of her life. She had been through hell. At 17, she'd married her husband, who was abusive and separated her from everyone she knew. Now she was in her 60s. It was amazing for her and for us, because she was someone who really hadn't had a voice. As she told her story, she started feeling so good. We could see her become empowered. We were all having so much fun listening to her, and she was hysterically funny giving us advice about sex.

In the afternoon session, the issues and involvement of the Arab women emerged. One woman was obviously having a hard time with the process, and was saying to everyone in the room, "Things are getting worse! Things are so bad for my children. They are suffering." She implored the Jewish women to go out and make different choices, take different actions that would make a difference in her children's lives. "Don't just hear me," she said. "Do something different." We all held her.

Another Arab woman, who had not been to any Beyond Words workshops for a while, stood up and expressed anger at Nitsan for the way she leads. I said to her, "You're angry with Nitsan, but you need to step into leadership. You have to be a leader." She said she was afraid, and explained, "I'm so sick of being outnumbered. I feel so alone." She said whenever she joined a group to do work on peace, "There's always two Jews to every Arab wherever I go. I'm always outnumbered." She started screaming at the other Arab women too. "Come stand with me! I need your help!" Silvi was sobbing, and said, "I've been waiting for you to come back here, sister." Then the Jewish women came and stood around to support the Arab women. It was another profound moment of connection, unity, and shared intentions. The Arab women were saying that they wanted to work together again and be part of things and there was going to have to be some way that they needed to do things differently together. They said they wanted to make things work. At least momentarily, it was a reconciliation between the woman who had now come back and the Beyond Words leaders.

Her message and that of the other Arab women came out loud and clear: Here's all our rage and anger and here's what made it hard for us. Here's what we need in order to continue this work. I'm so afraid to do it alone, I need your help.

When a group gets to places like that, what comes out is the need for help and mutual support. People who are working on peace can't do it without their enemies. You can't work on peace alone. You need each other. I can't do this without you, is the message. I need my enemy in order to create peace.

Thirteen Days in Israel Part 3

March 9 -- Silvi and Nurit's group in Zefat-Mgrar

"The Jewish women were saying, our culture and religion tells us we shouldn't be meeting."

On the third day, Beyond Words had arranged for us to work in this gorgeous, magical place called Zefat-Mgrar. It was an ancient Arab village, but now only Jews live there. In this beautiful place, you could still feel, in the walls and the ground, the energy and the presence of the Arabs who had lived here for centuries. Regardless of your political viewpoint, it’s unavoidable when you're in a place like this not to feel the conflict between the cultures, and to experience some sort of internal conflict as well. You come face to face with the history of this country, where people had to leave their ancestral homes and can’t return.

The place where we met had the feeling of a harem--a secluded house in older Muslim cultures where only women would live. There were stone passageways and big amazing stone rooms. Intricate and richly colored carpets covered the floors and there was a huge vaulted ceiling and windows high up that let in the natural light. It was a completely spectacular space.

This particular group was composed of about 15 women, extremely religious Jewish and Christian, Muslim, and Druze women. They have been working with Silvi (who is Arab Christian) and Nurit (who is Jewish) from Beyond Words.

One Druse woman had done Radical Aliveness work with me before, so she was very excited for Anna and me to get there. She started by talking about something that had happened to her at work, where she lost her ability to speak up for herself. As we listened to her and worked with her, she started feeling like she was having a past-life experience. She became frightened when she tried to describe the sensation of being strangled.

As I've mentioned before, in groups where intense energy starts moving and people are going to very deep emotional places, it's not unusual for one person's cathartic emotions to get things moving and serve as a trigger for others. This woman’s past-life experience brought up feelings in another woman, a Jewish woman, who was having trouble finding her voice. We worked with her also- helping her to move open her voice- she felt liberated and empowered in this process.

The religious Jewish women told us that in her culture it's highly unusual that they and other women would be involved in work like this. In fact, many of them did so in secret. "Our culture and religion tells us we shouldn't be meeting."

All the women really loved the work we did that day. They expressed to us that they were proud of the fact that they had become such an amazing group. With Anna and myself, and in their ongoing group work with Silvi, Nurit, and the Beyond Words organization, these women are bravely defying the oppressive aspects of their culture. I felt honored to support and further their efforts.

In all of the places we went, the people were interested in the Radical Aliveness work and interested in going deeper--in being a part of a process and a movement. Mostly the thing that's amazing about collaborating with Beyond Words is seeing people coming from such different points of view--really wanting to be together, loving each other, bearing witness to others' deep work.

Noha had said at her college that there is intense political conflict, but when you get these people working with each other and revealing profound feelings and experiences, it starts to accomplish deep healing even around still-raw historic wounds. After working with fellow human beings in a room and feeling their fear, pain, and exaltation, they really can't look at so-called enemies in the same way.

This is a big part of the Beyond Words mission: to get these women in connection with each other, to really get to know each other and care about each other, and to move beyond differences of culture, religion, and politics. Only then can we find the place of commonality, where we are all human beings.

Thirteen Days in Israel - Part 2

March 8 -- Efy's group in Kfar Vradim

"One man cried -- and told me he hadn't cried in twenty years."

This was to be an all-day workshop with Jewish men and women who were studying playback theatre with Efy, in Kfar Vradim. Efy had been to Omega Institute and has worked with me and the Beyond Words group there. So Beyond Words helped her organize this big group of mostly women, and just two men, all Jews.

This was a fabulous group experience because all of the participants were involved with therapeutic theatre work, and all of them had done emotional work in the past, so we were able to dive right in.

When we work with groups like this that are very emotionally adept, I sometimes like to start with a mandala exercise. With this group, we created a big circle with everyone’s heads in the center, so they were arranged like spokes of a wheel. Anna and I got them all breathing and releasing simultaneously, kicking, making sounds. This exercise creates an energy flow that becomes palpable. When everyone is on the floor doing the same thing, it enables them to have a big emotional release and let go easily.

That was happening beautifully with this group. Anna and I walked around and facilitated, reading people’s energy. You kind of work the room, moving from person to person, helping them in places where they’re stuck to keep the energy building and building. It creates a huge energy field you can work with and move around, like a giant organism.

From doing this so many years, I can spot where energy is throbbing and wanting to break through. I look at the room and often pinpoint one person in whom the energy has built to such a pitch that when I work with that person, they will take the whole room with them. It’s as if that single person becomes the key that facilitates the entire group process.

In this particular group, I looked around the circle and, noticing one woman, I could feel there was something very powerful that needed to go through her. When I focused in on her, she quickly went to a very early place of needing her mother. I took her to an old and raw childhood trauma, where she re-experienced the loss of her mother when she was just a young child--and then she completely let go. Her cries and her pain, in turn, opened up the room. As often happens when one person really lets go and breaks through, a lot of people start feeling things at once. It feels like an electrical charge goes through the room and everyone feels the jolt and comes alive.

Sometimes it’s difficult to describe this work to those who haven’t done it. But the beauty of the Radical Aliveness process is that when you can get a group of people like this to experience deep emotions fully, without inhibition or censorship, they begin to feel things that they would never normally feel. Among this group, there was a beautiful Jewish man who finally felt grief he hadn’t expressed for many years. It’s much more unusual for men to be involved in this kind of work, particularly in their Israeli culture, so we were all touched by his vulnerability and openness. He got very radically alive, and told me he hadn’t cried in twenty years. Later he danced and said he also hadn’t danced in twenty years. And that is the beauty of this work, when we fully embrace our pain we also open to our pleasure.

Everyone was thrilled by what had happened that day. When we finished, you could look around the room and see that people were feeling their energy and were fully alive.

Following last weekend's "Resistance & Surrender Workshop

Dear group- sometimes I can't find words for my experiences in these groups. Something happens for me when a group explodes and everyone comes alive and the heavens open up and all the feelings come pouring through and there is healing and surrender and joy and pain and LIFE all the way without holding back and we are one and following the flow. It makes me cry just to write this. What we are capable of as human beings when we surrender to the full flow. Such healing, such wisdom and grace beyond words. So many images that stick in my mind- of aliveness, freedom, truth, discomfort, struggle leading to breakthroughs, courage, generosity. I know this is how life really is- I want to support that. Go out and be alive!

Thank you for this bliss I feel. Love ann

Thirteen Days in Israel - Part 1 - Part of a Series of Blogs on Ann's work in Israel

Thirteen Days in Israel -- Part 1

From March 7 through March 19, 2011, I traveled in Israel and Palestine doing Radical Aliveness group healing and coexistence work with Jewish, Arab Christian, Druse, Muslim, and Bedouin men and women. My workshop itinerary was organized by the Beyond Words organization, a group of multiethnic women working to bring about peace in Israel and the occupied territories. I’ve had the privilege to train these women in Radical Aliveness work at Esalen Institute here in California and also in Israel.

Over the course of working with eight different groups arranged by Beyond Words, there were giant feasts put on in my honor with more food than I could possibly eat. There was a Jewish man who cried for the first time in 20 years, and a Bedouin woman who had never shared with anyone her heartbreaking story of being ostracized by her tribe, standing up to her husband, and struggling to survive without any help. People from diverse religions, cultures, and political backgrounds screamed at, sobbed with, and ultimately embraced one another. During the last days of my trip, the kibbutz where we were working was hit by mortar fire. As I huddled in the bomb shelter, Layla, one of the Bedouin women we had been working with before the bombing, came into the shelter and said, “What are you so afraid of? If today is your day to die, then so be it. Come on!” I started laughing and left the bomb shelter with Layla to finish our work. As we drove off to meet the other Bedouin women who were waiting for us, I realized Layla was right. We’re not finished with our work yet -- but we are getting closer.

March 1, 2011—Noha's College in Mgrar

"There was an Arab man who lit up the room -- a big juicy man."

My colleague and fellow Radical Aliveness facilitator on this trip was Anna Timmermans, from Holland. The first place the Beyond Words organization sent us was my friend Noha's college in Mgrar, an Arab village. A lot of Westerners are unaware that there are many pockets of Israel populated almost exclusively by Arabs. They call themselves Palestinians, because Israel was known as Palestine before it was renamed. Noha’s college is a satellite of a Jewish college, and the first college in her village. It trains graduate students who want to be teachers and different types of therapists.

This first workshop group comprised mostly Arabs and a few Jews, all studying drama therapy. Through the coordinating efforts of Beyond Words, Noha invited us to her school to introduce the Radical Aliveness work to these future therapists. Noha was the first woman in her village to drive. Now she's running this amazing college.

Because these workshop participants were already adept at emotional work, it was easy for Anna and me to get them to come alive. The most interesting thing that happened in this group? There was an Arab man who literally lit up the room the second we saw him -- a big juicy man. The Arab culture is incredibly alive and full of passion, but when an individual shows his emotions, it’s looked upon as a weakness. This is especially true for men.

We started with an exercise I often do with new groups, in which we break them into groups of three and they ask each other questions about what messages they got from their family, from their culture, and from the other culture. Then in turn, two partners repeat the answers of the third one back to him or her, and that person is asked to focus on what’s happening in his or her body.

When this large Arab man listened to his own words reflected back, he was aware that he felt the top part of his body a lot, but couldn’t feel the lower parts of his body. We started by getting him hitting The Cube -- a gigantic fabric cube the Beyond Words women had sewn together for me, stuffed with foam. (Throughout this trip, The Cube became a major character, traveling with us all across Israel and Palestine, crammed into back seats, often on top of an unlucky passenger, pulled over by some cops, kicked, beaten, and beloved.) We watched in awe as this man, whose energy filled up the whole room, went wild on The Cube. He was so powerful and full of energy and willing to let it out.

After he had been hitting for a while, I asked him to start kicking The Cube. He was hesitant at first, and we had to encourage him to keep going. What came out was that he said he was afraid of his aggression, and felt that he couldn’t be trustworthy if he were to get in touch with all that trapped energy. He said he feared that he would do things that were against his religion and culture. I explained to him that if we don’t get in touch with our blocked and frozen energy and let it flow, then it will either come out in unconscious ways, or we will have to be in constant control to keep it from coming out -- and that will compromise our aliveness. When we’re afraid of feeling all our energy, we sometimes act inappropriately. This man understood, and then he really came alive. Everyone was encouraging him, especially the women.

Afterwards, the women in the group were crying, "I want my father to do this work, I want my brother to do this, I want my husband to do this!" They were so unbelievably moved and touched that an Arab man would be expressing himself so fully, that he could be so vulnerable, and that he was talking about his feelings and using his energy in such a powerful way.

This experience supported our knowledge that real power comes from the place where we become vulnerable and claim all of our energy fully, without controlling it.

That evening, Noha took Anna, Nitzan (also from Beyond Words), and myself to her house for a feast in our honor. One of the things you discover about Arab culture, and about which they are deeply proud -- and rightly so -- is their incredible hospitality. They welcome you into their home whether they know you or not. They give you all their food. When you are in an Arab culture, you can be sure that you’ll be taken care of and treated as an honored guest wherever you go.

GROUP "Three Sisters"

"Group" Trailer -- Radical Aliveness with Ann Bradney

Message from a 1st Year Student in the Radical Aliveness / Core Energetics Training Program

March 2011

Here is what I have to say to potential new students.

I have tried several different types of therapy and none have come close to working like Core. There is something so unique about the process that makes it hard to put into words other than it works and it works fast. If you want fast, real, tangible change in your life –this is for you.

It has the unique quality of circumventing your mind and ego so you cannot control, stop or slow down the process like with talking types of therapy. It moves through you on a cellular level leaving the imprint of change that will stay with you.

I was worried that I wouldn't have the time to do this program with my busy life, but it has actually fit very easily into my very busy schedule.

I wasn't even looking for major change or to deal with major issues when I joined. I just saw some things in my life that I wanted to change and empower. I was looking for subtle shifts and fine-tuning. I got that and so much more.

Only halfway through my first year and I am living a more authentic life than I could have imagined for myself at this point. I feel so powerful and clear and true to myself.

I joke to my friends and tell them that I am the Bourne Ultimatum of Process work. I feel laser sharp and intense clarity when dealing with people, life and myself.

If you have the courage to show up and the willingness to grow to your highest potential, then the RA training program is for you.

- Jonathan, 1^st Year Student

For more quotes from students, see this previous blog post http://annbradneyradicalaliveness.blogspot.com/2010/07/testimonials-from-students.html

After the 5-Day Radical Aliveness Workshop at Esalen

Dear Radical Aliveness Participants,

I am still sitting with the energy of all that we experienced. I want to remind you to take care of yourselves. Work like this opens things and always leaves one with a lot to think about and feel. Please reach out, get support if you need it.

Remember all the great things you did. Take them out into life- risk, reveal, tell the truth, take responsibility, sit in the fire.

That last afternoon is seared into my brain and heart- that is my vision for a better world. I have such an image of so many voices, bringing different perspectives, staying with a messy process, standing up for what felt true, bringing out your voices - helping to unfold a deeply healing and profound experience. No one held the truth- there was no right way- everyone was needed to find our way. This is what I want you to take most of all- you are needed to help unfold the deepest healing of this world. It takes courage, it takes patience, it takes a willingness to be uncomfortable- but look where we go when we all show up!

There is a quote which I can't quite remember but it goes something like this- "I am not afraid of the cruelty of humanity- that is not what will be the downfall of us- what I fear is the complacency- the blind acceptance of what is without questioning"

Thank you for your vulnerability, for the stepping into the not knowing, for standing up when you did know, for risking making messes, and for your willingness to see your responsibility in what gets created. I have so many memories of moments that brought such deep healing. You are in my heart.

Love,

ann